One of our assistant principals had this special ability to walk into the gym before school, raise his hand, and get 800+ middle school kids QUIET. No, I'm not kidding! How did he do it?
Why do kids behave so much better for some people than others? It is a mystery. There is no classroom management author I've found who can truly explain this enigma. When you walk into one of these classrooms, the kids are quiet and on task and the teacher is ... doing .... what? No one knows. Even the teachers themselves have a hard time putting it into words.
I have been studying classroom management for over 5 years now, trying to uncover the secret behind this "magical" ability that some possess. I would love to write a book that will help others understand how to do this ... and I decided I want to begin collecting stories from all of you. How did you learn to command attention from a bunch of loud, wild, boisterous kids?
Do you remember the first time you were able to have that kind of influence with your students? What were the factors at play... was it your energy/confidence level, the joy you felt, or your skill in "with-it-ness?" Or, was it something else?
For me, it was several things - one factor was learning about "calm-assertive" energy from studying Cesar Millan, the Dog Whisperer! I know - that's a little bit weird! But, a lot of his ideas in dealing with dog behavior DO translate to the classroom! What My Dog Taught Me About Classroom Management; Having a Calm-Assertive Attitude For Leadership
Another factor was understanding that holding kids accountable was not supposed to be this annoying thing I had to do every so often when kids got way out of hand. Accountability was actually something I needed to do regularly, as soon as I saw limits being tested, and without becoming annoyed. Calm consistency was key.
Classroom management expert, Dr. Fred Jones, also set out to understand this enigma, this mysterious influence that some teachers possessed and others didn't. He studied teachers for over 30 years and figured out a few things these "commanding" teachers were doing.
"It is the undying hope of green teachers that if they just love their students and are nice to them, everything will turn out fine. That is the sweet dream of the uninitiated. It will get a smile from anyone more experienced in raising children. To succeed, you will need both love and skill. Love without expertise is powerless. One of the key skills of successful teaching is meaning business. Any teacher can tell you that you have to mean business. But, how do you do that? Meaning business involves your entire being. It is mental, emotional, and physical. ...The mental part of meaning business centers on a clear understanding of consistency -- consistency when setting limits on children's obnoxious behavior. Effective teachers and parents are consistent, but they are consistent within the context of nurturance." Dr. Fred Jones, Tools For Teaching Positive Discipline Part 5; Thinking Like a Teacher
"Figuring out what the 'natural' teachers were doing proved to be rather difficult. Their responses were quick and subtle. Often it was just a look or a gesture. Eventually, however, patterns emerged so that we could begin to describe what the teachers were doing. In the literature we referred to this 'skill package' collectively as Limit Setting, but the teachers often referred to it as 'meaning business.' The skills of Limit Setting included:
That assistant principal I described above was also the only administrator I've ever worked with who consistently, regularly, made an effort to encourage everyone around him. Whenever I would pass him in the hallway, he would say, "You're doing a great job, Mrs. Nichols!"
He used his power to build people up.
What is your secret?
In our next articles, we will describe what we believe are the "secrets" to commanding that magical attention, to creating order out of chaos:
1. Body Language
2. Mindset, Character, & Self-Discipline
3. Energy, Consistency, & With-it-ness
"In dealing with a discipline problem, more important than what you do is the act of doing. For every specific problem there are myriad effective solutions. It doesn't matter which one you select - you can even invent a new one - because for any and all discipline problems the real solution has nothing to do with technique or method. It's called commitment. It's the sense of purpose, the determination, the resolve you invest in the method of your choice (or invention). Commitment is the backbone of discipline." Dr. John Rosemond, family psychologist, author, discipline expert, speaker
article by Mrs. Anna Nichols