tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post5652834563529790993..comments2023-11-29T18:48:37.203-06:00Comments on MANAGING THE ART CLASSROOM: WE ALL GO THROUGH THE SAME STUFF DIFFERENTLYUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post-56705992453813549822016-05-02T18:59:41.304-05:002016-05-02T18:59:41.304-05:00I actually just watched the actor John Cleese in a...I actually just watched the actor John Cleese in a video clip, he was talking about people who get offended easily; He said, "If people can't control their own emotions, then they have to start trying to control other people's behavior... and when you're around super sensitive people you can't relax and be spontaneous because you have no idea what will upset them next." It's a really interesting clip - I'll message you.<br />Mrs. Nicholshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218390811321064256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post-70809007215092890462016-05-02T13:03:38.652-05:002016-05-02T13:03:38.652-05:00Yes, I think you are right. Our old friendship re...Yes, I think you are right. Our old friendship rekindled maybe 3 or 4 years ago, in side conversations in games of Words with Friends; we had a mutual respect for each other's competitive game-play with words and strategy. But over these years, I began to realize how many times I have had to explain myself to her, when she got upset by something I said, or something I didn't say. Sometimes, it was as simple as me not taking a turn or responding to a conversation for a few days because I was busy! I would have to explain that, for example, when you have children, or grandchildren (I have step-grands), your priorities change, and if a few days went by and I didn't respond to something she said, it didn't mean I didn't care, but I was simply BUSY. It showed a deep insecurity on her part. And if I didn't agree with her politics, I didn't dare say. Again, deeply insecure. At this point, while its sad to lose a friendship, I am actually relieved to not have to be constantly on the defense, or constantLy putting "bandaids" on something I said the wrong way. It makes me realize that perhaps there was a good reason I didn't see her for 40 years. <br /><br />Anyhow - thanks for letting me use your blog post as a free therapy session! ;)Phylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482775924810462890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post-37036174574277162452016-05-01T20:26:13.554-05:002016-05-01T20:26:13.554-05:00Yes, it makes sense. We can't help how other p...Yes, it makes sense. We can't help how other people respond and I am so sorry to hear about the miscommunication with your old friend. This is just my opinion, but I think when people get all bent out of shape because of something someone said, it touched a nerve because they need to deal with a personal issue. I always, always question myself when I get offended - what do I need to learn from that person? <br />It is very true that hurting people hurt people. Mrs. Nicholshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218390811321064256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post-5710465696033410652016-05-01T16:03:24.987-05:002016-05-01T16:03:24.987-05:00Wow, I'm loving this article! I recently had ...Wow, I'm loving this article! I recently had a personal incident/misunderstanding with a high school friend, who completely misinterpreted something innocent I had said on Facebook, and who I doubt will ever speak to me again. I've come to realize that she has walked a completely different path than I have over the 40 years since we've actually seen each other. She, a high-powered urban attorney in business suits and fancy condos, with no children, and no interest in or experience with children, and me, the small-town gal who has spent her life with kids and messes, in a modest home and clothes covered in paint. Our lives have been so different it's like we speak a totally different language, and she didn't care for my language at all. Sometimes, when someone wants to judge, I guess I have to let them judge, and be comfortable enough with who I am that I don't let their verdict hurt me. Does that make sense? Phylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482775924810462890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5161264728231129694.post-46428320429849879642016-04-30T14:36:03.530-05:002016-04-30T14:36:03.530-05:00Thank you for this realization, Anna. We mentally ...Thank you for this realization, Anna. We mentally "know" the truths you stated, but our reaction is often less pro-active and more negative. I appreciate this important reminder. -Becky GuinnMama Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058760301013252184noreply@blogger.com